SWG Tales

As most of you know Kirt is a man stricken with two failed marriages, and set to walk this world alone and it seems that iam following in his footsteps, last night when i logged out while talking to some of you on TS my fiancee told me she wanted to take a "break" and to her it is to think about the relationship and everything wrong that has gone on with it, to me it is somthing i had felt coming soon. She swear's she loves me but it still doesnt take the hurt away that iam now alone and do not know if the one i love the most besides our daughter will ever know if we are to stay together and i must say thank you to Dwilah for our talk last night that if not for her i would probally not be as stable as iam now, i have been dumped befor by one other person i loved but i have never felt as much pain in my life as i did last night, i will see you guys when i come back on sunday and i will be posting here and there when i get a chance. Thanx again dwilah your my new best buddy!

Just hang in there Kirt, we're all here for you and things will turn out okay in the end.

We'll be here Kirt, take care of your life man. All the best,

Jabe

see, relationships fucking suck. they hurt sooooo bad. that is how I was dumped...the break thingy.....4 years man...I feel your pain..I really do, just get out and have some fun...its what I been doing....I even bought a new car... HA HA HA HA...it still hurts

It will get better Kirt.

I was 21 and been married for 3 months. My husband and I got into alot of debt before we got married and we went through a bankrupcy. Then he hit me with "It's not working, I want a divorce".

At the time. I loved him. I didn't want him to go and begged him to stay. He said no and I hated him for doing that to me and wondered how he could be so heartless. I blamed him for the bankrupcy, the divorce and his unwillingness to try to work things out, I blamed him for everything. I also doubted and second guessed myself.

The odd thing is that now, seven years later, if I had the power to go back and change things, I wouldn't. Things have worked out. It took a while and something else happened to give me a chance to refocus but I can say I'm happy. I don't blame him anymore either.

Your Fiancee needs to sort thing out. Try to help her and don't let yourself be angry and never give up hope whtever may come.

If there is one thing we can expect to happen in life, it's to die.... but if there were a SECOND thing we could expect to happen, it would be pain. Be it mental, physical, emotional, etc. etc.

But there is always a way to get through it. The best way to cope with pain is to take your mind off of it. For me the best thing is laughter and good company, they both usually come hand in hand. I'm sure you have close friends other than "she who needs a break" and their company and their advice is the best that anyone can offer you.

I was talking to someone earlier today about pain, while that person's pain stems from something a little different, it is still similar. And essentially what I tried to explain is that the strength we need to survive doesn't come from somewhere up by the stars, in doesn't come from other people.... It comes from inside yourself. If you can find that strength deep down inside, you can be pretty damn sure that whatever happens will turn out the way you want it to. You have to take care of yourself before you can even hope to take care of the people you love.

And it may sound tacky to some, but God will always love you. He wouldn't have given you life if he didn't.